WillThink4Wine

Before you embark on a journey of revenge, dig two graves.

–Confucius
 

Revenge and Jealousy. They’re kinda family, like evil step-sisters, aren’t they? Equally self-destructive while at the same time equally destructive to the intended object?

I’m a lover, not a fighter, so I’ve never been able to get my mind around the whole ‘let me punch someone in the face’ thing, or ‘gee, I think he likes her better than me’ thing. In my opinion Revenge & Jealousy speak more about the person displaying these emotions (fear, low self-esteem, insecurity etc.) and don’t necessarily say anything about the object of the Revenge or Jealousy.

When I was in junior high I received a phone call from a girl I barely knew who “called me out” . She wanted to meet me at a certain location at a specified time to fight for the affections of my boyfriend. I laughed at her, mostly because I thought she was kidding. I told her if she wanted him that bad, she could have him. She got mad! So I told her that the way I saw it, if he didn’t want to be with me, what possible purpose would the fighting serve? She also wasn’t pleased with that.

When I hung up the phone, my mother asked nine million questions and was very upset that I might actually show up for the fight. But that’s a whole other story.

The girl? She was mad at me for weeks. We went on to become good friends and remained friends through high school until we both got married and life happened.

The Boyfriend? I married him. And divorced him.

Rats. I should’ve insisted that she take him.

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